Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Book Blogging Confessions: Blogging Controversies


Book Blogging Confessions is a weekly meme hosted by Karen from For What It's Worth and Tiger from Tiger's All-Consuming Media. This week's question is about blogging controversies. How do you address them? Do you join the Twitter frenzy? Write a ranty post? Stay on the sidelines and hope they go away? How do you think we should address plagiarism scandals? Bad author behavior? Negative comments on our blogs?

I'm kind of the strong and silent type when it comes to controversy and drama. The only time I ever get involved, especially on Twitter, is when someone is verbally attacking a friend of mine or someone was hurt by what someone else has said. I think people get so passionate about their opinion that they forget the person they're arguing with is still, in fact, a person. You can still have a strong opinion without criticizing someone else, ya know?

Sometimes I see people calling each other names on Twitter. Regardless of how you feel about what someone thinks or does, there is never a reason to use such vicious words with one another. My advice? Before you tweet it, read it once, twice, make sure it's intelligent and civil, then send it. People will respect you more for it.

Remember how I said I'm the strong and silent type? Believe me, I have my opinions in certain matters. The only difference is, I try my best not to get involved. No need to add fuel to the fire, if you ask me. Instead, I vent to my friends! My poor friends who have to hear me rant for a couple days till I get over it.


Friends really are the best resource blogging can offer you.

Now, plagiarism. The truth of the matter is, plagiarizing someone else's work and taking credit for it is just plain wrong. We've all learned at a young age that stealing is wrong, and there's no excuse for it. To be honest, I'm not sure how anyone should handle this matter. Personally, I just stop following the plagiarize-e on twitter and stop following their blog. I guess it's my way of indirectly voicing my opinion.

The same applies to authors behaving badly. I can't imagine how it feels to have someone criticize your work. I imagine it's like someone criticizing your baby, however, arguing back in a disrespectful manner is inexcusable. Remember, everything you say can and will probably used against you.

And finally, negative comments on our blogs. As long as they're respectful, I can deal with it. I'm the type person that appreciates someone for their opinion because I know not everyone will agree with me. Now, if someone calls me names on my blog and/or was completely disrespectful, that's a different story. My blog is my home, and no one disses Big Lena in her house! I would let that person know that while I understand their opinion, I'd really appreciate it if they didn't use such harsh language and to remember, of all things, be RESPECTFUL.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it meaaaaans to me! I mean...eer...

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AND THAT'S ALL SHE WROTE!

Do you guys agree with my opinion? Disagree? Let me know! If you've written a blogging confession post of your own, I'd love to read it!

9 comments:

  1. Great post! I am just like you. I do want to go find out all that is going on with a situation, so I can make up my own mind on what has happened rather than just believe one person. But then I try to stay out of it. I don't believe it is ever right to just call someone a name or attack them personally. I have a huge problem with that. If it is a behavior, then that is what you should talk about. Again, great post, I think they way you handle this is a very mature and appropriate way that others should probably try to do as well.

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  2. Great post and nodding along with you too.

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  3. Great post!! I agree, I try to stay out of the drama too unless it directly affects me or a friend. I find it does no good to be part of it because usually the people ranting are set with their opinion and don't really care what you say anyways, even if it is a valid point. It just gets everyone worked up. Not to say that I don't DM with friends or email about it, but I try not to do it publicly. It's never okay to verbally attack people or say hurtful things and it does make me mad, but I try to stay out of it for the most part.

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  4. I don't blog about anything unless I have something original to say about it. So unless I have some personal stake in the drama, I sit back and let everyone else go nuts about it.

    (Not saying I'm not following the drama. Blogger drama is hilarious!)

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  5. I wholeheartedly agree with your opinion Lena! I think it's very important to remember that we're dealing with actual people; that's enough to make most people think twice about whether what they're doing or not is decent or respectful or civil. Plus, it's definitely good behavior for people to be respectful, even when commenting negatively on a blog!

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  6. I agree for the most part. I think your ideas and opinion is pretty good and valid. But I know myself and I tend to get inflamed or incensed or ticked off pretty easy and then end up running my mouth on twitter and g-chat. Sometimes I end up regretting it, sometimes now. And lately, I don't know, I just haven't really engaged in the drama, instead I've been taking twitter breaks when the fights happen and end up reading a book or writing a review instead.

    I really like this: "I think people get so passionate about their opinion that they forget the person they're arguing with is still, in fact, a person" and unfortunately am prone to that sometimes, but at least am working on it.

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  7. Texting=sanity!!!!

    I used to have such strong public opinions but these things get so crazy that facts and sanity tend to go out the window It's like a train wreck. I watch for a little while then just look away.

    It bums me out because there are a lot of discussions that really need to be had if we could just do it in a polite way.

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